Sisters And Beauty Peer Pressure

If you are a girl and you have a sister, older or younger, you can relate to the pressure that comparisons between the two of you create. It’s often difficult to identify this pressure and it’s even more difficult to accept that you are jealous of the person with the deepest link to you.

I’m the middle sister. My older sister is two years older than me and my younger sister is three years younger. I honestly loved being the middle child. I felt like I got the best of all worlds. I could sneak into my older sister’s makeup and jewelry and boss around my little sister and her friends.

Then I turned 15 and my world changed. My older sister turned into this 17-year-old goddess. I swear I remember she woke up one morning and her hair was shiny blonde with curls around her face, her makeup was all shimmery and she had boobs! Ah, the Miracle Bra! I have one now. I thought it was very unfair magic then.

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My little sister also took on a new persona – the baby of the family. More unfair magic. I was left as this middle lump with flat hair and a flatter chest. Being prettier than my older sister was unattainable and acting like the baby was gross (and got me into trouble.)

Everything changed. I began to hear compliments in a very distorted light. If someone thought something good about my sisters it must mean they were trying to let me know that I was lacking in that area. If one of them succeeded, I felt like my parents must be disappointed in me. When I was complimented or achieved something I felt like it either paled in comparison to them or that it would soon be eclipsed by something they would surely do soon enough. Messed up as it was, that was my mental state.

My family, including my sisters, did all they could to counter my self-inflicted peer pressure, but to no avail. I knew lots of girls who were faster than me, slower than me, dumber than me – they didn’t matter. I knew lots of girls who were thinner than me, faster than me, smarter than me – they didn’t count. They were worlds away from me. My sisters were my mirror. We were connected. In my mind, you couldn’t see one without the other, and you couldn’t possibly appreciate us individually. There was a better and a worse. I was the short stick.

I’m thankful that I grew out of that. Lots of women don’t. Lots of girls get lost forever in the comparisons. What can you do if this is you? Not sure. Helpful, I know. Pray for better vision. It’s a tough place to be.

Every girl was created on purpose. You. Me. All of us. We’re supposed to be deeply connected to our sisters, but we have to be our own link in the chain. Take it from a recovering middle child, you’re beautiful. You’re different. You’re a little the same (or a lot the same for some). You’re supposed to be. You’re on purpose. Take a good look at you and enjoy!

Spa Etiquette

It’s natural to be nervous the first time you go to the spa. Most first-time goers have a multitude of questions about the process and the correct etiquette during a spa visit. This small guide should put all your questions away.

Every spa is different so if you want to make most of the spa you’ll be visiting, it is worth getting there ahead of time so the staff can give you some instruction over the process. Typically though, you should arrive 5-10 minutes ahead of time anyway as you may be asked to fill out a consultation form.

Once you have been registered, you will be taken to a room to change. You will be given towels to wrap around you and clean slippers, usually disposable and therefore previously unused. After about 10minutes, your therapist will come and knock on your door to see if you are ready before taking you to the treatment room.

Of course, a message will involve a certain amount of nudity, but you don’t have to worry about being seen naked. Therapists are trained to shift the towels to ensure that all private areas remain private. Some spas have a policy which states that all clients must keep their underwear on but usually, it all depends on what makes you comfortable.

If you feel you would have a more relaxing time sans underpants, then you will be draped with towels anyway. If you need to turn, the towel will be held high by the masseuse so nothing will be seen.

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Feel free to tell your therapist which way you like your massage done (soft, medium, hard) and if there any parts of the body you`d like the therapist to focus on (shoulders, lower back, feet) or where not to touch (“I don`t like foot massage, it tickles me”, etc.). The most therapist will ask you at the beginning of the session but feel free to comment during the massage and help them understand your preferences.

Punctuality is a key in the spa world. Popular spas work on a tight schedule that barely leaves room for negotiation so being even a few minutes late could cause a chain reaction that may affect other guests. So if you arrive late, then be prepared for a shorter session as more than likely your therapist will have to leave for another appointment.

If you need to cancel, try and cancel and reschedule 24 hours beforehand. It is a standard rule that those who cancel less than 24 hours will have to pay for the session despite not turning up.

If you have a health condition or if you`re pregnant its best to consult your doctor before booking a session as the treatment you are after may not be suitable. Either way, you should advise your therapist of any special medical condition or if you`re pregnant. Remember also to switch off your mobile phone as a courtesy to others and you should be in for the most relaxing time of your life.