I Know i may be a little old to post here.(47 to to precise),But thank you, and the production team for bring this subject to light.Having being in a position of watching my marriage breaking up due to alchohol.I have two sons aged 18 and 20. Myself wife and youngest son sold up and moved to Spain,for what we thought was an ideal opportunity to make a fresh start.(to live the dream). But after a short time the pic started to turn sour.Work dried up in Spain, so i had to spend time away from my family and work back in the UK. This shouldn't have been a problem.Earn some money during the summer months, as builder then return to Spain to reap my rewards. But what i hadnt realised was that while away,and Spain having a heavy culture,my wife was involved in a group of people. One who owned a bar and then the drinking began.Everytime i phoned my wife from the UK she was either drunk or starting to what was to be a light or heavy drinking session. I returned back over the year,,for a few days at a time,and then hopefully then permanently.Each time my partner was drinking more and more. On arrival from day one my son told me of stories where her drinking just got totally out of hand. Then my wife was offered a job in a the bar of 'this' so called friend.Pouring drink down my wifes throat before she even began work. This is when it started to rip the family apart.'Free' drinks whilst working and late sessions after work. Time after time people who met my wife told her to 'stop'.Friends visited us from the UK and were shocked to see the way my partner and mother,was destroying herself through drink. Tears,denial and arguments since,have continued for over the last 5 months we were together.Its got to the stage now,where i'v had to leave Spain and try to re-group and asses where i go from here. My youngest is still there,hopefully i will get him away from this nightmare this week.As he needs his life back with friends and family.But at the same time is torn apart,do i stay and help or go? He has run out of ideas on how to stop his mother from drinking and smoking heavily.He's cried himself to sleep some night's,and every time after time mum is always in denial that she has a drink problem. My eldest also is going crazy because mum won't listen to people who really do care.Where do we go from here? She wont return to the UK,wont accept there is a problem here.Everyday it's my fault for leaving her there where she is.She just will and never will acept that this is the only reason why WE have to get away. What started off as just the odd 'socialable 'drink with friends has now turned into a total nightmare senario.Either way we will be wrong to do what we need to do.If we stay,then what? Continue the never ending arguments that last for days at a time.Or leave? And try to get on with our lives,But how?
I completed the itv.com/tonight questionaire.My partners score was a frightening 28.
Again many thanks.Good luck and continue to fight what is becomming a social desease.
Regards Gary and family
