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Alcohol Misuse in the Home
Although alcohol is considered socially acceptable, it can be a dangerous and addictive drug. Alcohol misuse doesn't just affect the individual; it can also cause pain and grief for their families and friends. Many young people living with parental drug and alcohol abuse have no choice but to assume early responsibility for their own, and others' wellbeing, and such neglect can develop into emotional and social problems later in life. It is not unusual for the young person to feel responsible and to blame themselves for their parents addiction. Our trained mentors respond to young peoples messages sharing key messags that young people need to hear such as 'it's not your fault'.
Parental alcohol misuse creates serious problems for many children and young people the world over. Those affected are often living with parents or family members who are, because of their addiction, unable to provide adequate practical or emotional care
We Can Help
COAP supports an online community for young people, ranging from 7 to 30 years of age that are worried about a family member's addiction. Whether it’s alcohol misuse, substance abuse, gambling, or anorexia; together our online community supports and empowers its members, allowing them to share problems and seek advice from others who know what they’re going through.
For many young people, the current path may seem to be one of loneliness, despair, and confusion. Through our message boards, we've come to learn just how resilient, determined, and hopeful young people can be when faced with, what seems like, such a hopeless situation.
You don't have to go through this alone.
One COAP mentor shares their story...
Living with a parent who is addicted to alcohol is so scary. I remember living with my dad when he was alive and seeing him drinking. The most vivid thing I remember is how much I felt that what he was doing was wrong…and that the liquid he drank made him very scary. It was so confusing, and I remember the feeling of nervousness I felt, always wondering what would be waiting for you when you got home from school.
I felt very alone, not wanting to tell anyone for fear of what they would think of me….so I became very quiet, both inside and out. I isolated myself. I thought that if I was quiet my scary dad wouldn’t notice me and he would not aim his anger towards me.
Everyday I wanted his drinking to stop, and I told him so, but in my case he never did stop drinking. Looking back now, I can see how I came to think that my alcoholic father was normal, and thought that everyone went through what I went through…so it came as a shock when I learned from friends that they had ‘normal’ parents, parents who did shout everyday at their children and bang things and fight. I remember thinking how amazing it would be to have a parent who was the same when you left for school in the morning and when you came back in the afternoon. This is something I never got to experience. Then I became very envious of them, and wished everyday that my dad would stop drinking…or worse. I came to realize that feeling this way was in fact normal, and nothing was wrong with me…even hating my dad for how he acted was normal, as any person in my situation would feel the same.